Rejection Wish List

The list of little gifts I can give myself for each rejection letter I receive when querying:

  • Nice stationary you’ve been eyeing
  • Eating dessert out
  • A fancy cocktail
  • Going for a walk in a beautiful place
  • Movie night with the family
  • Cookies (the ones you hid away in “that” cupboard)
  • Mani-pedis, if you like that kind of thing
  • A bottle of your favourite wine
  • A pack of your favourite gourmet coffee beans
  • Bubble bath with a book
  • Binge watch a late night show
  • Popcorn (a reward for those of us who diet!)
  • Cup of fancy coffee/hot chocolate from your favourite coffee shop
  • Chocolate, of course, in all its incarnations.
  • A supportive friend or family member who will pronounce the rejecting agent or editor an idiot
  • Chocolate and ice cream is always a good option!
  • Go to a nice destination for a walk to help calm the mind
  • Donuts, the ultimate police food. Azura & Bailey recommend bear claws.
  • Sushi
  • Cheap sweet wines
  • Gift cards for some new music
  • M&Ms
  • Buy a flashy coloured pen each time to remind yourself to keep writing
  • A new manicure!
  • Isolation tank session
  • Shiatsu massage
  • Buy a bottle of port and squares of dark chocolate and treat yourself…when you finally find your perfect match, send them them a bottle!
  • Something which solves some minor but annoying problem in your life, like, I dunno, a sturdier paper towel rack. May seem silly, but you’ll make yourself happy + will eliminate future frustrations. Future you will love your gift (mine to me was thicker oven mitts).
  • Something new to wear so when you get your book published and are signing them, you’ll look amazing!
  • Pretty bookmark
  • Belgian chocolate ❤️
  • A whole Halloween bag of Reese’s peanut butter cups with a bottle of cheap dessweet wine
  • Take a nap wearing a comfy blanket and a furry pet who loves you no matter what you do; if you don’t have a pet, or a kid to hug, I’ll lend you one.
  • Trip to the cat cafe
  • Go pat the bunnies at the Humane Society
  • Send a new query to a different agency to replace the one rejected. Some chocolate may be involved. And some cuddle time with my cat.
  • Go to the beach
  • Go for a bike ride
  • Buy a book
  • Get a new shirt
  • Get a new bookcase
  • Hire someone to clean your house
  • Give yourself a day to relax and read
  • Buy a new candle or lotion
  • Have bath or an extra long shower
  • Outlining cards by Vivien Reis (https://www.vivienreis.com/product-page)
  • A nice soothing bubble bath by candlelight. Microwave pizza goes well with this too.
  • A good workout
  • A cuppa, your fave treat
  • New bath bomb
  • Cool paper
  • 30 minutes of DOWN time
  • Scented candle
  • A new book
  • Give yourself $20 every time you’re rejected
  • Drink some of your favourite alcohol.
  • Treat yourself and a few loved ones to a nice meal.
  • A good smelling candle and some nice tea.
  • One day to sleep in with no disturbances.
  • Ask your husband for a massage
  • Cook your favourite meal
  • Have a karaoke party at home (solo / with family or friends, 20 min or a whole night)
  • Buy one nice item of clothing (doesn’t have to be expensive)
  • A walk around the block or in the park by yourself, or with your dog, your kids, your best friend, to enjoy the life around you.
  • Get a quilted pillow for cuddling
  • A bouquet of flowers from a florist rather than a supermarket
  • A glass of prosecco when you go out for lunch, instead of a soft drink
  • A good quality lipstick
  • Buying a new book you want to read or some new nail polish or perfume
  • Cake! A nice piece of clothing when you hit 5. A movie night at 10. Something sweet for every odd number. A good meal with friends/ family at 15.
  • Splurge on a writing webinar, book, or class
  • Cut up pieces of each and use them to make a collage that you frame when it is finally published (or do some kind of artwork around it)
  • A bar of your favourite chocolate! An hour of me time to take a bubble bath or read that book you’ve been dying to read but not had the time to start
  • A mani pedi
  • A cake from your favourite bakers
  • A cool pen
  • Colouring book & colouring pencils
  • New journal or notebook
  • High-end chocolate
  • individually packaged cookies.. the fun kind you don’t normally get
  • All the cool stuff you can get from Bed Bath & Beyond grocery section
  • Cute sticky note sets or stationery/etc. from the Target dollar spot
  • A new book
  • Try a new restaurant
  • Cook a new recipe
  • Sketch something
  • Bubble bath and a stiff drink
  • Buy yourself something you always wanted
  • Buy/read a book by a writer who wrote a single great novel and disappeared
  • Walk, go to a yoga class, or read a new book

Other truly brilliant things ideas to do in tandem:
(Thanks to @MaggieWolff5, @CornerWriting, and @BooksTransire for thinking these up)

  • Another exercise that might help is writing everything you like about your novel on a portable device. That way, if you feel like giving up you can always look at that list. (Get CPs and Betas to help make this list.)
  • Reverse Idea: For every rejection, put a five dollar bill into a jar. Then when your book is published, use those funds to throw the biggest release bash you can. (Maybe I’ll do BOTH.)
  • Sketch or paint something for each rejection (art is cathartic).